One
thing to do is make expectations clear. Post a chore chart so that
every child in the house will know what to do and also what is expected
from them. By posting a chart none of the children can claim ignorance
as an excuse. One good idea is to rotate the chores regularly so that
kids do not become bored or grow to dislike a certain routine.
Assign
deadline for the completion of chores. Whether the deadline is within
the hour, by bedtime or maybe as far as a week to complete the task, is
clear about when you expect the chores to be completed. Younger
children between the ages 6 and 8 should be given special instructions
to make sure they understand what needs to be done and how much time it
should take them to complete the chore. You need to check up on your
children halfway through to see how it is going. That way they will
learn how to use time management to their advantage.
Most
importantly, assign certain chores to kids that fit their age. Toddlers
can do simple tasks like putting toys away or placing their dirty
clothes in the hamper. Preschoolers like to play at cleaning along with
you. Have them throw their sock on the hamper or dust the furniture.
Get them a child size broom and have them sweep the kitchen. Elementary
school kids can make beds each morning, put clothes away and most of
all put their toys away. Be careful how they handle breakables, come
children at this age are less coordinated than others. Ten-year-olds
and above can help with vacuuming, sorting and folding laundry, meal
preparation and helping with yard work.
At times, as painful as
it may be, we need to enforce consequences. If you child does not take
care of the chore, take away something that is important to them. For
example, take away their favorite toy or do not let them watch TV. If
they do not clean up their room by a certain time, keep track on a
chart or paper and when allowance time comes, they do not get one.
Money is a great motivator. If a child is denied his or her allowance
for not completing their chores and on time, you will see dramatic
positive results.
On several occasions you may need to be
flexible. If a child has exams or a sporting event in the near future,
they may need to cut back on household duties for a few days. If you
have several kids in your household, you may let them choose the chores
that they may want to take care off. Occasionally, take a look at the
big picture, because if a child's bed is not made each and every single
morning, you can figure it is not a big deal.
The best way to
encourage your children to take care of their chores is to lead by
example. Make sure your own belongings are organized as much as
possible and keep your bedroom neat and clean at all time, so your
children will have a good role model.
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